Time is the greatest healer; or at least that’s how the saying goes. Be that as it may, however, time may also well be merely one of many instruments, should we choose it so.
During the time before it’s time, and in between time, there are certain agents/factors that can help us move time along while giving us a little bit of hope and respite at the same time.
Among the top of that list, are words. Words are powerful, we all know, and could very well make or break us in a myriad of situations.
But heartbreaks are painful too, and that might even be an understatement, because with a broken heart comes, among other things, the feeling of betrayal, a sense of abandonment, and a huge shrink in our sense of self-worth. Lucky for us, however, we have Time, and soothing words from wise men and women to help us get through.
Which is why in this post we have labored to compile a list of some of the most soothing words offered by great men and women who, like us, have passed through that great, sad event that is a heartbreak.
Our hope is that these words help in your journey towards lifting your pain and finding happiness again.
It is harder than it sounds, sure enough, but we only ask that you open your heart and let these words speak to you as much and as profoundly as they do to us, and you will find that words really can heal a broken heart.
Louise Erdrich in The Painted Drum:
Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel.–
Perhaps the worst part of a heartbreak is moving on. The whole world is bleak. The past becomes a burning structure crumbling on you, the present becomes consumed by it, and the future, you feel, does not even exist. And even if it does, there is no love in it for you.
But Mrs. Erdrich lets you know with this quote that what you’re feeling is not the truth. All that’s happening, the heartbreak and the weariness, are normal events in the life of any man or woman; unavoidable to the fullest extent. Meaning, as a consequence, that it is not necessarily a reflection of you or any shortcomings on your part.
What’s more, the future is NOT and should never be a bleak structure without an iota of love in it. And neither should you choose for it to be. You have to love again. Because even though there is hurt in it now, there is also a lot more joy to be found.
Trying to live alone, in solitude without love, according to Louise Erdrich, is an even worse sort of punishment; way worse than a heartbreak. Because, in fact, LOVE is the reason you are here on this earth; to risk your heart; to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, all you need to do is sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. [And] tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.
So dust yourself up, find that peaceful place, and taste as much of the sweet fruit of love as you can!
Lisa Schroeder’s Quote to Heal a Broken Heart:
Letting go isn’t as painful as holding on to something that wasn’t real.
Letting go is painful. Your heart knots bitterly and the whole world appears upside down, but one important thing to always keep in mind is that no matter how painful it seems to let go, holding on to a love that was never real can be a hundred times more devastating.
It is a lighter pain that eats at you slowly and destroys you from the inside. Which is why it might seem the easier solution. But you’re strong, and the pain that you’re feeling now is a validation of your strength, not the opposite. It will come at you in a flurry, like a wicked wave that threatens to overthrow your balance, but it will not! Because you are strong. You will withstand the storm, and with time the pain will leave. It will.
But holding on to something false is a much more wicked, more painful darkness. And thankfully because you are going through the pain of a heartbreak now, you will never have to go through that darkness ever. So what Lisa tells you is that instead of being bitter you should rejoice!
Rather than see yourself as having lost something, know that you have gained. You will be ever better off because of it, and would have set those words on a path to heal a broken heart.
“Was it hard?” I ask. “Letting go?”
“Not as hard as holding on to something that wasn’t real.”
Marilyn Monroe’s Quote to Heal a Broken Heart, attributed:
Lovers will come and go. Pretty much all of them will break your heart. But you CAN’T give up, because if you do, you’ll never find your soulmate.–
To heal a broken heart, sometimes, might be as simple as making up your mind to keep trying. Of course it isn’t that simple. But either way one thing that’s constant, which Marilyn Monroe reminds us of here with these words, is that we CANNOT afford to give up.
Giving up is automatically choosing to lose the battle. Gathering strength at the times when you feel low is hard, but the way we see it, it is even harder when you’ve chosen to stay fallen.
We must choose to draw strength from every place possible — the future included. Marilyn is telling us again what Louise Erdrich did, yes people will hurt you; that is normal. Never give up. Never stop looking to the future. You WILL find your soul mate. You only have to keep trying.
As for lovers, well, they’ll come and go too. And baby, I hate to say it, most of them – actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can’t give up because if you give up, you’ll never find your soulmate. You’ll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything.
Mansi Soni’s Quote to Heal a Broken Heart:
— for every time you get hurt, there is something somewhere being written to make up for it, to make the happiness due even bigger and laughter even merrier.
It is hard to be optimistic after a heart break. Some might even say it’s impossible, because one of the very first things that get taken away with a complete heartbreak is hope. But with words like this, you know you can take back your optimism and face the world with it!
Mansi Soni helps us consider what could happen with hope. And that is exactly what you should do. Because hope is the greatest weapon in our arsenal, and without it the battle is lost.
Hope for the best. Hope for the merrier days — they’re coming!
It is only natural, isn’t it, that having being hurt; having known pain, you get to appreciate your happiness even more. You WILL laugh harder and dance more freely. Nothing is ever guaranteed, but because you have faced or are facing this great trial, your triumph will be even more profound.
For after all, good things must happen to good people.
Let’s hope that for every time that we get hurt or break our heart, there is something somewhere being written to make up for it, to make the happiness due even bigger and laughter even merrier, for after all good things must happen to good people.
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Karen Halvorsen Schreck:
If you love something, let it go…
Despite its painful decline into the bitter realm of cliches — thanks to Hollywood and pop culture vultures — this quote still very much holds true, and its therapeutic tendency can never be exaggerated.
What isn’t meant for you will NEVER remain with you. And what is meant for you will ALWAYS find its way to you. It is only by underestimating yourself that you think you’re nothing without something.
You are strong, and what you really can’t do without will always be with you.
Original NLv Quote to Heal a Broken Heart I:
The future is a clean slate, covered in fog, but a clean slate nonetheless.
You’re not doomed. You’re not ruined. No matter how much your heart aches. No matter how blurry the future seems. Behind all that fog is still a clean canvas, on which you can paint rainbows and sparkly colors and beautiful memories.
The pain will NOT last forever, and the future is yours for the taking. Heartbreaks make it seem as though our fates have been sealed, but it couldn’t be farther from the truth.
Ignore the fog, keep holding on, never lose faith in the future. Never lose faith in love! The world is yours for the taking!
Original NLv Quote to Heal a Broken Heart II:
Deprivation is not, necessarily, suffering.
If you have noticed, everything that has been said, every phrase that has been quoted, have all basically been a convergence towards one final, inalienable point: you will be okay. You will come out of this stronger.
All you’re going through at the present is nothing but a way to make sure you come out stronger and better in the end. It is not unlike an ascetic who undergoes a prolonged amount of mortification.
You might be deprived of some things at the moment, but it is by no way suffering. It is merely life making you tougher. Preparing you for the magnificent days ahead.
Which is why on that note, allow us to end with a brilliant quote from Gregory Roberts:
Sometimes you break your heart in the right way, if you know what I mean.
If that isn’t the thought to heal a broken heart, we don’t know what is! Thanks for reading.
Some of the quotes on how to heal a broken heart — marked with the ” –” symbol — are paraphrased, with the original quotes given at the end.
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